Not all collars mean the same thing. In BDSM, the type of collar matters just as much as the act of wearing one. Below is a guide to the most common collar styles—and the symbolism often attached to each. As always, meaning is defined by the people in the dynamic.
TYPES OF BDSM COLLARS & WHAT THEY MEAN
Day Collars
Meaning: Ongoing connection, subtle ownership, everyday devotion
Day collars are designed to be worn discreetly in public or daily life. They often resemble jewelry or fashion chokers and allow the wearer to carry their dynamic with them at all times—without outing it to the world.
Think: quiet commitment, constant presence, chosen belonging.
Infinity Collars
Meaning: Long-term commitment, enduring bond, mutual devotion
Often marked with an infinity symbol or seamless design, infinity collars represent a lasting or ongoing power exchange. These are commonly exchanged during rituals or milestones in a relationship.
Think: “this dynamic has no expiration date.”
O-Ring Collars
Meaning: Submission, availability, readiness for control
One of the most iconic BDSM collars, the O-ring serves both symbolic and functional purposes—allowing attachment of leashes, chains, or restraints.
Think: visible submission, scene-ready energy, classic kink.
Training Collars
Meaning: Learning, structure, protocol
Training collars are often used in developing dynamics or structured relationships. They may indicate a submissive who is actively learning rules, behaviors, or rituals.
Think: growth, discipline, intentional power exchange.
Play Collars
Meaning: Scene-based roles, temporary power exchange
These collars are worn during scenes or roleplay and removed afterward. They’re perfect for experimentation or casual kink without long-term symbolism.
Think: fun, flexibility, exploration.
Ownership or Title Collars
Meaning: Authority, recognition, status
Some collars feature embossed titles (Dom, Sir, Daddy, Princess, etc.) or heavier construction. These often signify rank, role, or authority within a dynamic.
Think: command, identity, earned position.
Decorative / Fashion Collars
Meaning: Aesthetic kink, flirtation, self-expression
These collars may be playful, pastel, edgy, or luxe—sometimes more about vibe than protocol. They can still hold meaning, especially in D/s or Daddy/little dynamics.
Think: personality-forward, expressive, stylish kink.
COLLARS ARE ABOUT MEANING—NOT JUST CONTROL
A collar isn’t simply worn. It’s given, chosen, accepted, or earned. Whether it marks playful submission or profound devotion, its power lies in the intention behind it.
EXPLORE BDSM COLLARS AT THE STOCKROOM
From discreet day collars to bold O-ring and infinity styles, The Stockroom offers expertly curated BDSM collars for every dynamic, identity, and stage of exploration. However you define your power exchange, the right collar makes it tangible—beautifully and unmistakably.
FAQs
How do I choose the right collar for me?
When selecting a bdsm collar, consider:
- What it represents (play, ownership, devotion, identity)
- When it’s worn (scene-only, private, daily)
- Visibility (discreet vs unmistakable)
- Comfort & fit (secure, never restrictive to breathing)
For example, a soft pastel O-ring choker sends a very different message than a structured, oil-tan leather collar with commanding hardware.
What does a collar symbolize in BDSM?
A collar can symbolize many things depending on the dynamic: submission, ownership, commitment, training, or scene-specific roles. Unlike generic jewelry, a BDSM collar carries negotiated meaning. Its power comes from consent and intention—not the material alone.
There is no universal definition. What matters is how the people wearing and giving the collar define it.
How should a BDSM collar fit?
A collar should feel secure but never restrictive. You should be able to fit one to two fingers comfortably between the collar and the neck, with no pressure on breathing or circulation.
Fit matters more than aesthetics—especially for collars worn for extended periods. Adjustable designs are ideal when you’re still exploring comfort or symbolism.
Is it ok to buy your own collar?
Yes - absolutely. While some collars are gifted or ceremonially given, many people choose or purchase their own as an act of self-definition and empowerment. This is especially common with day collars, fashion collars, and early exploration.
